
1. An increased tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen.
2. Frequent attacks of joy, unexplained smiling and random bursts of laughter.
3. Feelings of being closely connected with others and nature.
4. Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
5. A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from fears based on past experiences.
6. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
7. A loss of ability to worry.
8. A loss of desire for conflict.
9. A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
10. A loss of interest in judging myself.
11. A loss of interest in judging others.
12. Gaining the ability to love without expecting anything in return.
Most if not all of my posts up until now have just been me re-posting stuff I find interesting from around the web. This time I want to elaborate a little more.
During my last trip to Singapore I had a great time with Paul and Masami, the founders of B1G1.
I first heard of B1G1 a couple years ago when I started my own short-lived daily giving initiative. I lost touch with Paul over the years until recently when I was copied on a random email by my partner. When I saw Paul’s name cc’d on the email old connections rekindled. As fate would have it B1G1 has their office in the NTU Innovation Centre, the same place we have a small space we call our own. Of course theirs is a much bigger and cooler space, actually it’s a real office, but not to worry plans are in the works to move out of our noodle boy based cubicle and become their neighbors.
Paul has an infectious energy and a perpetual smile, Masami is gentle and inspirational, together they make a perfect team.
As soon as I met them in person I knew we had to work together, I knew these people were genuinely concerned with making a difference in the world, I knew this was going to be the beginning of a fantastic partnership. We have something big planned for MediSherpa and we will be rolling it out in the next little while.
The one thing that is obvious from the video and even more obvious if you ever get to meet Paul or Masami in person is that they are genuinely happy, they love what they do and it comes out in every aspect of their lives. This is the kind of happiness that comes from chasing your dreams and seeing them become reality. The kind of happiness that comes from giving not receiving.
You’ll be inspired with the movement that Paul and Masami have started which is helping so many people on a global scale.
WHAT’S B1G1
• It’s a platform that enables people to give in an effortless way
• It’s a global business giving initiative launched in 2007 and headquartered in Singapore
• It’s a social enterprise, comprised of a for-profit company and a registered non-profit society which provides support to giving businesses, continuously builds systems to maximize giving effectiveness and actively promotes this way of giving
HOW IT WORKS
• Companies who join B1G1 choose a worthy cause to give to
• B1G1’s Giving Engine makes sure that 100% of the giving goes to the designated Worthy Cause project chosen by the giving company or individual.
• Example: If you buy a plasma TV, people in Africa will have access to clean water for a day
THE DIFFERENCE THAT B1G1 IS MAKING
• It’s providing real-world benefits to people in need
• It’s creating the bridge between the Haves and the Have Nots
• It gives people the sense of connection that they’re really seeking from their giving
• It makes people experience the joy of sharing instead of feeling guilty about giving
• It awakens civic mindedness in companies and individuals
You can learn more about G1B1’s mission of sharing or how you can give by going to their site at B1G1.com.
Watch Paul’s TED X Talks here:
Paul Dunn on Ted X (Video 1)
Paull Dunn on Ted X (Video 2)
“Life is an interesting journey; you never know where itll take you. Peaks and valleys, twists and turns, you can get the surprise of your life. Sometimes on the way to where you going you might think, this is the worst time in my life. But you know what, at the end of the road through all the adversity, if you can get where you wanted to be, you remember whatever dont kill you make you stronger, and all of the adversity was worth it.”
— TI

Adam Yauch of the Beastie Boys was a dedicated activist to the freedom of Tibet movement and believed that the smallest actions could make the biggest changes.
Here’s a great quote from him that I want to share.
Am i the only one who thinks the symbolism in this video is pretty cool?
Rihanna (pisces) is the fish.
Drake is the toronto blue jay.
And the arrows are stopping the bull Chris Brown (taurus) from getting in the way.
“For the benefits of meditation to become widely accessible to humanity, it cannot just be the domain of bald people in funny robes living in mountains, or small groups of New Age folks in San Francisco. Meditation needs to become “real.” It needs to align with the lives and interests of real people.”
–via the Dust Jacket of Search Inside Yourself
There’s a new search program at Google, but one without a magic algorithm. This program lets you search inside yourself so you can find, well, yourself. Cleverly titled “Search Inside Yourself,” it’s a free course Google provides employees that is designed to teach emotional intelligence through meditation, a practical real-world meditation you take with you wherever you go. The program was reported in yesterday’s NY Times and described in Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace) by Chade-Meng Tan who also teaches the course. It’s a rock-solid business-friendly mindfulness course in three acts: train your attention, develop self-knowledge and self-mastery, and create useful mental habits (video above).
That Google takes care of the minds of its employees should not surprise. Companies that fly high are learning to take care of their own, and the perks need to be more than free beverages and foosball tables. This is especially true at Google.
Employees coming from fast-paced fields, already accustomed to demanding bosses and long hours, say Google pushes them to produce at a pace even faster than they could have imagined.
via Google Course Asks Employees to Take a Deep Breath – NYTimes.com.
Instruction in mindfulness, in being able to reflect rather react, is a genius perk to provide. The article does a nice job reporting how it helps those Googlers lucky enough not to get stuck on the waiting list; more people want to take it when offered than can be accommodated. With effectiveness and popularity in mind there’s a few more things that need to be said.
All Mindfulness is Good Mindfulness
It doesn’t matter where or how you develop mindfulness. Doesn’t matter why. Doesn’t even matter what you do: meditation, yoga, prayer, therapy, gratitude, science-help practices, hiking, painting, exercise, etc. It’s all good.
Any practice or activity that supports reflection over reactivity, encourages feeling feelings rather than acting on them, and opens awareness to what is really going on is of benefit. Slow down, notice, and savor is a great way to build mental wealth no matter where or how. It just is. All mindfulness really is good mindfulness.
Take a Deep Breath When Your Job Sucks
There’s a huge problem with the Google ”Search Inside Yourself” path to greater mindfulness and emotional intelligence. Huge. Namely, most people don’t work for Google, or companies like Google. In fact, for many people work is a rather unplesant experience, and if not unpleasant few jobs offer opportunities for transcendence and personal liberation. For many work is just work.
But don’t think mindfulness doesn’t apply. Having a job that kind of sucks, or sucks some of the time, doesn’t mean that mindfulness is not for you. Perhaps the more your job fails to present opportunities for growth and self-expression, the more you need to cultivate mindfulness; perhaps when you’re working 9-to-5 is when you most need the ability to reflect rather than react.
I had an email exchange with Caitlin Kelly who wrote the Times article, as well as Malled: My Unintentional Career in Retail, about mindfulness in mind-numbing jobs. She said,
“You have to detach as much from it as a source of stress as humanly possible while putting in enough effort to stay employed. Just because they’re paying you doesn’t mean you have to put your heart and soul into it.”
Well said Caitlin.
Mindfulness of Other Minds
Practicing mindfulness is always mindfulness of something, including of mind itself. Because of this mindfulness practices are sometimes disparaged as isolated navel-gazing. That is wrong. An important common thread to mindfulness practices is people becoming mindful of other people also having minds.
As you’ll see if you watch the video above, one of the mental habits SIY teaches through instruction and exercise is to think to yourself when engaging someone else that you want them to be happy. The exercises open space for connecting with the fact that other people are having thoughts and feelings and are not just some object generating a reaction in you.
In my exchange with Caitlin Kelly I asked her about her own personal experience with mindfulness practice. She described her experience with an 8-day Buddhist retreat, including something very interesting about mindfulness of other minds:
“Every teaching session, two to three a day, began with 10 to 20 minutes of meditation and chanting — which I had never done before. It was powerful to do this in a large group of about 75 people, men and women of all ages. The communality of it is really important — which is key, I think to the SIY classes. You have tremendous support for this risk you take.”
Or as the SIY book itself states,
“For the benefits of meditation to become widely accessible to humanity, it cannot just be the domain of bald people in funny robes living in mountains, or small groups of New Age folks in San Francisco. Meditation needs to become “real.” It needs to align with the lives and interests of real people.”
–via the Dust Jacket of Search Inside Yourself
No One Likes Change
I know change is hard. And I also know there are many profound, personal, and often seemingly intractable reasons people have trouble implementing changes like those taught in SIY, or in any mindfulness practice. In fact, part of how I make my living is bearing witness to the pain impending change causes. Even the most desired outcome can at times feel like a Sisyphean task. But I’ve learned that change is possible. With patience, understanding, and kindness, even Sisyphus can be helped to leave that damn rock alone and get on to other things.
One way to approach change is to start small, give yourself a success experience. Make it bearable, bite-sized. Go hear a lecture before reading a book before changing your life. So, here’s a video of Meng giving a lecture. It’s very Google-centric, making Google-ish points like making the most of opportunity because you will now have a deep knowledge of self. But its a good place to start, or to continue.
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“If you’ve spent much time enduring the hassles, filth and indignities of LAX, Dulles and JFK, Singapore’s Changi airport is a revelation. As former prime minister Lee Kuan Yew decreed, you get from the gate to a taxi in 15 minutes. The men’s room is sleek and immaculate, and even asks you to rate your experience (and thus the attendant) via a handy touchscreen ranking as you leave.
As close readers of this column will have noticed, I’ve been a gushing fan of Singapore’s public policy achievements since I began looking at them a few years back. Singapore spends 4 percent of gross domestic product on health care vs. America’s 17 percent, yet it delivers equal or better health outcomes. It’s at the top of global school rankings because (unlike us) it routinely recruits exemplary students into the teaching profession. Yes, I know, Singapore still denies press and assembly freedoms we take for granted, and has awful anti-gay laws on the books (which I’m told go unenforced). But a few days spent talking with officials, businesspeople, students and government critics in the city-state that now boasts one of the world’s highest per capita incomes have deepened my admiration for Singapore’s accomplishments. I also came away convinced that last year’s watershed elections — in which the ruling People’s Action Party won just 60 percent of the popular vote and lost a group constituency (and three cabinet ministers) for the first time since independence in 1965 — mean a more democratic political era is unfolding.
Start with what Singapore has delivered for its 5 million people. The place is a policy wonk’s paradise. Thanks to what may be a historically unique blend of dedicated, highly educated technocrats and the “luxury” of decades of one-party rule, the government has always taken the long view. Pragmatic problem-solving is its creed. Benevolent dictatorship never looked so good.
Beyond world-beating health care and education systems, some highlights:
* Development. Back when most developing countries shunned multinationals as evil exploiters, Singapore smartly embraced global firms as indispensable sources of training, technology and jobs. As a result, Singapore grew in real terms by a stunning 8 percent a year on average between 1965 and 2010, and has become a site of choice for top firms serving Asian markets. Even Uncle Sam now tries to emulate Singapore’s savvy in courting foreign direct investment. The state’s latest economic strategy document, crafted with input from stakeholders across the island, reads more like a strategy consultant’s analysis than the usual blue-ribbon mush. “We’re like a company,” says Philip Yeo, who ran the globally admired Economic Development Board for years before launching a new agency that’s an innovative cross between the National Science Foundation and a venture capital firm. “We have a plan.”
* Clean talent. Singapore’s government has always been clean and exceptional. The tone was set early on by Lee, who flew commercial to international meetings and was repulsed by African leaders who came in on private jets while their people starved. Lee ruthlessly punished officials who tried to use their post to line their pockets, insisting that the rule of law meant just that. Top students are offered full rides to places such as Oxford, MIT and Stanford, and then “bonded” to do, say, six years of government service thereafter. Twenty years ago this culture was bolstered by the introduction of the world’s highest public-sector salaries, so that government could compete for the best and brightest. I’m talking roughly $2.5 million for the prime minister and $1.3 million for cabinet ministers (with bonuses tied to GDP growth). Pay became an issue in the last election and was recently scaled back for top officials by roughly a third in response. But whatever the right balance, pause and think how smart it is to pay for the talent a country needs to govern — and how differently we’d view, say, Treasury Secretary Tim Geithner’s approach to Wall Street reform if everyone wasn’t expecting him to cash in when he leaves.
*Transport. Singapore runs the world’s best airline (despite being based in a nation the size of New York City, with no internal flights). The subways are gorgeous. The city uses electronic road pricing — every wonk’s dream — to ease traffic at peak hours. Digital signs advising where ample parking places can be found dot the main thoroughfares.
*Housing. In America, “public housing” means “ghetto.” In Singapore, 80 percent of people live in public housing and virtually all of them own their homes, having received mortgage assistance from the government. It’s part of the national strategy to build assets and foster the positive social behavior that comes with ownership.
*Urban planning/climate change. A big chunk of the downtown bay area is now a reservoir via a feat of engineering I don’t pretend to understand but which experts tell me is remarkable. Meanwhile, Singaporean officials don’t debate whether climate change is real but instead are taking such impressive steps to cope that one U.S. guru told me “it’s actually embarrassing as an American to look at what they have done.”
*Fiscal stewardship. This may be the founding generation’s most distinctive legacy. The giants of Singapore’s independence — Lee, economic architect Goh Keng Swee, and others — were educated in the United Kingdom and started out as Fabian socialists. But they concluded early on that Britain’s post- Beveridge commission welfare state would become unsustainable as the population aged and risked undermining incentives to work, which they saw as the foundation of a strong society. The path they chose for social security was thus a different form of nanny state — high forced savings, under which workers typically must contribute 20 percent of earnings to their account in the Central Provident Fund, with employers adding 15 percent more. The aim is to build up assets that can be tapped to buy homes, cover medical expenses and prepare for retirement. To be sure, there are serious questions today as to whether middle- and low-income people have adequate savings for these purposes now that Singaporeans live to 80, not 60, and new health treatments are pricey. But the culture of self-reliance this approach has imbued is strong.
What’s more, the fiscal strength it has given the government to address emerging challenges is arguably unique at a time when Western democracies groan under the weight of trillions in unfunded entitlement liabilities. Singapore, if you’ve followed how this works, has exactly zero unfunded liabilities. Since the forced savings accounts are done by the individual for the individual and are not legislated entitlements, there’s no redistribution involved. While critics and reformers tell me the years ahead will almost certainly see Singapore redistribute more amply to elderly and poor citizens at risk of falling through the cracks, no government is in a stronger fiscal position to update its social compact to cope with the age wave. In part that’s also due to conservative budget rules and endowment-ethic investment practices that have left Singapore with more surpluses and reserves than virtually any other nation.
Singapore is hardly perfect. Critics make a good case that the long rule of the People’s Action Party has left it complacent and out of touch. In some ways the government’s decades of exceptional performance have also created expectations that are impossible to sustain. What’s more, the great fruit of government’s success, Singapore’s educated middle class, naturally seeks a greater voice now in politics (and is ushering in a fascinating new era I’ll discuss next week).
But the big thing to take away from the Singapore story thus far is this: While Americans fight endlessly about “big government” vs. “small government” yet do nothing to meet our biggest challenges, Singapore has ignored ideological claptrap and focused relentlessly on what works. Its low-tax, business-friendly environment is matched with major government activism in education, health care, infrastructure and housing.
Singapore thus stands as the leading modern example of how government as pragmatic problem-solver can dramatically improve people’s lives. This ethos has virtually disappeared from U.S. governance at the national level. Liberals are wrong to ignore Singapore’s progressive achievements because of its (rightly criticized) shortcomings on civil liberties. Conservatives are wrong to miss the lessons of Singapore’s activist, hyper-competent government.
It was roll-up-your-sleeves pragmatism that catapulted Singapore from third world to first in a few scant decades, and it is pragmatism, not ideological power games, that will be needed for American renewal. When it comes to effective governance, to paraphrase that famous scene in “When Harry Met Sally,” we could do a lot worse than to have some of what Singapore’s been having.”
Matt Miller, a co-host of public radio’s “Left, Right & Center,” writes a weekly online column for The Post.
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Like many bloggers, she studied English and History in college. She graduated with no idea what she wanted to do. Betty Londergan moved to the mountains of Colorado and became an editor for a small magazine. Later, she became an advertising guru. Her passion was always writing.
Betty had a daughter. She wrote a tragic comedy about life after having a baby, I’m Too Sexy for my Volvo. Her daughter grew up. She wrote another tragic comedy, this one about raising a teenager, The Agony and the Agony.
Betty’s daughter went off to college. She had no idea what to do with her life. Her time.

That fall — it was October of 2009 — Betty saw the movie Julia and Julia. It changed her life. It gave her a new path. An idea. An outlet for her writing. The film made Betty think “If I was going to write every single day on a blog, what would I write about?”
Her response is where the good news part of this story comes in. Think for a second, what would you write about if you wrote on a blog every single day? Probably not this: Betty decided: “I will give money away!”
Her idea was to give away $100 a day for 365 days. She wanted to give to and highlight non-profits that most people had not yet heard about. “What Gives 365″ began on January 1, 2010.
“It was seriously magical, it was just what I needed when I needed it. One thing led really organically to another. It was the most energizing, fascinating and completely engaging work of my life. I learned so much. I felt like I was a conduit for this super amazing information I could put out there,” Betty says.
Inheritance from her parents passing away funded the entire project. 365 remarkable days later, the project was over.
“When it ended it was really hard because I had this big vacuum. I kept wanting to do something more. I wanted to really see some of the things that I had written about. A lot of what I wrote about was poverty, hunger and development work.”
In April, 2010 Betty wrote about Heifer International’s work in Nepal. She loved their values-based literacy program for women in addition to their food and farming work. It was not until the late summer of 2011 when it finally dawned on her to contact the one person she knew that was at the top of an organization she loved — the CEO of Heifer International. She told him about her next dream.

This is where the great news part of this story comes in.
Betty put together a plan to visit 12 Heifer countries in 12 months in 2012 and blog all about it. She is volunteering all of her time and her photos and Heifer pays for her travel. One third of the way through the year, Betty still can’t believe it’s really happening. “The most difficult and most amazing part is that you are in parts of the these developing countries that are far off the beaten path with farmers, indigenous people and communities that are very underprivileged. I’ve been in some of the most beautiful places you can imagine and met some of the most remarkable people you could ever meet. That’s my privilege and it’s my responsibility to bring these people into very clear focus so they don’t remain ‘the other.’ You can’t look in their faces and think anything other than — that’s my sister, and not see yourself in some way. And by virtue of that, hopefully want to be involved.”

“I’m a nerd,” Betty continues. “I think it’s fascinating I get to learn how guinea pigs mate. I’m so jazzed I get to learn the things that people do around the world. The people I meet are just so clever in working with what they have. It blows my mind. I have so much respect for that. Did you know the Incan Terraces are completely irrigated? They were build thousands of years ago. There are millions of them. They still grow the food that way. It works. It’s mind-boggling.”

“I’m also blown away,” she goes on, “by the tremendous close-working relationship between people and animals. They raise them, breed them, graze them, take care of them, eat and them and use every part of them. They have so much respect for them and realize their dependance on them. We don’t have that relationship. We just eat them. I’m really struck by the fact that we’ve almost completely lost that in our culture. I admire and love that Heifer honors that part so deeply.”

Betty is now in Nepal and heads to Georgia in June, Appalachia in July, Rwanda in August, Vietnam in September, Bangladesh in October, Malawi in November and Ecuador in December. You can follow her journey at http://heifer12x12.com/.

*All photos from Betty Londergan
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